The human mind is accustomed to assuming and thinking the worse possible outcome specially when facing crisis, challenges or adverse situations. This results in the tendency to complicate life and make matters worse. This is why we must train our mind to think differently and our heart to imagine and feel good. That is how we gain control of our lives and attract the circumstances that we truly deserve.

I mean everyone wants to be happy and wants to live a peaceable and enjoyable life, and that is why we do the things that we do. However we sabotage our own lives when we are not conscious of how we are living or creating. A lot of us are living by default. By this I mean some of us merely exist because they are living unconsciously. Such people take life as it appears to be, and surrender to a life of unhappiness and misery because they believe they are powerless in changing their current life circumstances. Such belief is completely false.

It is true that our consciousness is affected by everything that we hear, see, think and do. However it is the things that we invest our faith in or believe that we attract in our life experiences. Once you begin to think and feel differently you will inevitably believe and create differently.

The world at large is infected by a negative thought system. It is very rare to come across people who are enthusiastic, innovative, creative and positive. This is why it is up to each individual to desire and to strive to retrain his own mindsets. This is accurately done through the process of unlearning and relearning. This development requires one’s willingness and desire to change. It is most effective when surrounded by the right people.

There is a French adage that says: “Dis-moi qui tu frequentes et je te dirai qui tu es”. The best translation I can come up with is this: Tell me who you hang out with and I will tell you what kind of person you are or your lifestyle. This encompasses the thoughts we entertain, the materials we read, and the kind of programs we watch on television.

The process of retraining the mind to think positively and the heart to feel and imagine good will initially require that one make some basic changes in his every day living. If you are serious about creating the life that guarantees happiness and peace you may need to stop reading some materials, stop watching some movies or programs, or stop hanging out with some friends.

Instead of relying on fate, you can create the experiences that you deserve beginning now. The question is: are you willing to take control of your own life?

A. Danielle Dagba